“Vote-by-mail” for the presidential primary elections begins this coming Monday, February 5th, 2024. Where did the last four years go?! Like all registered voters in Orange County, I recently received my Voter Information Guide in the mail. We are so fortunate to live in a country where we have the freedom, privilege, and the right to vote our own individual conscience. We are blessed to live in a democratic country, where every person’s vote matters and can make a difference.
I truly believe that it is my sacred responsibility as an American citizen to become knowledgeable about the issues, to learn about which candidate’s views and values most closely align with my own, and to vote to try and ensure my values will be upheld. At the same time, I understand that we live in a world where we also value and encourage a plethora of opinions, ideas, and views. This is what it means to live in a democratic country.
I embrace the diversity of opinions, views, and ideas – as long as those ideas do not cause pain or harm to others, or as long as those ideas are not forced upon those who do not share them. It is my belief that we can agree to disagree respectfully. We do not all need to hold the same ideals, opinions, thoughts, and feelings. Differences between us make our world more interesting, more dynamic, more lively.
When we discuss elections, and leadership possibilities, our discussions may tend to focus on issues rather than on actual leadership characteristics. My approach to all aspects of life, including how I approach elections, is guided by Jewish values. The Torah portion for this week, Yitro, teaches us that we must look beyond the superficial qualities when it comes to choosing a good leader. Parshat Yitro helps us understand that there are certain criteria for leadership that transcend political, ethnic, and socioeconomic boundaries. This Torah portion enables us to make a distinction between the characteristics that make a great leader and those that make only a good leader. Ultimately, these qualities enable leaders to create meaningful relationships with those around them so that together they can work for the betterment of all.
Yitro provides us with two models of excellent leaders: Jethro, the Midianite priest who is also Moses’ father-in-law, and Moses. Jethro is an example of a wise and seasoned leader. He is an impartial observer who is willing to share his knowledge, understanding, and wisdom with Moses. Moses is still in the first stages of his career as the leader of the Jewish people. He is a reluctant leader who ascended to his position only at God’s insistence. Moses is humble: His ego does not get in the way. He is an excellent example of a leader who is able to listen to and learn from others. One of his great strengths is that he listens carefully to Jethro’s wise advice and does not hesitate to integrate and incorporate that advice into the manner in which he leads.
From Exodus 18:1-27 we can extrapolate an outline of a training manual for leadership development, which we can use in all aspects of our lives: personal, religious, political, and professional. Jethro’s behavior and actions show us that the following are crucial traits for a great leader:
1. Seek your constituents where they are. (Exodus 18:1-6)
2. Show care and concern for the well-being of others. (Exodus 18:7)
3. Celebrate the accomplishments of others. (Exodus 18:9-12)
4. Offer constructive criticism in a way that can be understood. (Exodus 18:13-23)
5. In a nonjudgmental manner, give advice on how to improve things or help devise a plan for such action. (Exodus 18:19-23)
6. Empower leadership (and encourage growth) in others by sharing the responsibilities. (Exodus 18:13-18; 21-23)
7. Remember to delegate responsibility and authority wisely. (Exodus 18:21-22) Choose those who are:
• Believers in God (crucial for religious leaders, both lay and professional)
• Representative of the whole population
Moses’ behavior and response to Jethro exemplify the following traits:
1. Sharing one’s accomplishments with those who care. (Exodus 18:8)
2. Being open to, listening to, and learning from constructive criticism. (Exodus 18:24-26)
3. Not hesitating to implement change when necessary. (Exodus 18:24-26)
4. Be humble
Parshat Yitro reminds us that when we choose leaders, we must question more than their stances on political issues. We must ask: ‘Do they have the necessary qualities to work with others to make this world a better place?’ Yitro also provides us with excellent models for creating relationships, which will enable each of us to be leaders in our everyday lives vis-à-vis our families, our colleagues, and our community.
As we review the 2024 candidates for election, let’s keep in mind the lessons from Parshat Yitro. With Jethro and Moses as our guides, we will be able to lead one another to a time of hope, potential, and an envisioned bright future. Perhaps, we will even be able to lead one another to the Promised Land, just as Moses did.